Early on I learned two important lessons about relationships: 1. to value quality over quantity and, 2. the better you know yourself, the richer your relationships can be.
I’ll start by saying that the way I think about a #1 has very little to do with rank of importance. Instead, I think of its position and function. It’s a building block, your home base, your foundation. The number one represents strength and independence – it stands on its own. Now think about how these characteristics translate into a person: a #1 is someone who holds you steady, plays a role in elevating your life, contributes to moving you forward, and needs no complimentary players because he or she is enough.
\\Your #1 is a building block, your home base, your foundation...she is strong and independent.\\
It shouldn’t come as a surprise that my husband is my #1. He is my ride or die. My anchor. My equalizer. Your #1 doesn't have to be a spouse or significant other -- it can be a friend, a sibling, a cousin, a parent, whoever. Chances are, your #1 will change throughout your life and sometimes from situation to situation. Below are 5 things that my #1 has brought into my life and reasons why, I think, every girl needs one:
Having a #1 demands trust and vulnerability. I’m a guarded person, so I know how hard it can be to allow yourself to be vulnerable. But you can’t experience the true richness of a #1 until you do. I trust my #1 enough to let him see me at my best and worst.
I can’t always pick myself back up, talk myself through something, or celebrate my victories. You need somebody to do those things with and for you sometimes. I’m emphasizing “for” because the “with” is sort of the easy part, right? Sometimes I get so caught up in the day-to-day, I forget to recharge, to reflect, or to even celebrate. A solid #1 will recognize what’s missing or what you're neglecting and take the lead on getting it done.
To sit next to each other and say absolutely nothing. With a true #1 it’s not about filling the time and space with idle chit chat to avoid awkwardness. You will find comfort and enjoyment in their mere presence …. nothing else is required.
Sharing a full spectrum of emotions is healthy. Touching back on vulnerability...I won’t express certain emotions in front of just anybody. My #1, though … he sees everything from the ugly cry to unspeakable joy.
There’s fulfillment in having someone who knows your whole heart. Having someone who not only knows, but appreciates, your whole heart is incredibly liberating. No masking needing.
Hope it helps! What would you add to the list?