When things don’t go as planned
Things don’t always go as expected. And what I’ve learned is that some of my greatest lessons have come from a perceived ‘fail.’ At the beginning of November, I wrote about my intent to join #bloglikecrazy, a challenge to publish a blog post every day for 30 days. I made a calendar of topics, planned out my social media strategy, even started a few drafts before November 1. I was ready. Now here we are 30 days later…
Did I publish a blog post every day? Uhm, no. Not even close. I published like six blog posts for the entire month.
Do I consider it a fail? Uhm, no. Not even close. Dude, I published like six blog posts for the entire month!
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When we set out to do something and things don’t go as planned, there is typically still something to be gained from the experience ... even if we deem it a big fat fail.
Discovering what works (and doesn’t work) for you. Y’all, I had a color-coded editorial calendar with topics planned for the entire month…..juuuust to learn that writing from a calendar doesn’t work for me. My writing is rooted in experiences. So if I was totally crushin’ on my husband the day I was supposed to write about overcoming disagreements in your marriage, it wasn’t happening. I discovered that I write best off of vibe. That doesn’t mean editorial calendars have no place in my writing life, it just means my usage may differ from other writers.
Recognizing that productivity may look different than you originally thought. Six blog posts in a month doesn’t sound like a whole heck of a lot, but it’s the most I’ve published in a month since I started blogging. *Pitiful, I know. I’m a work in progress* So while I didn’t publish the 30 blog posts I set out to, I still ended up writing EVERY day for 30 days, making tons of updates to my website, starting a Writing Angela Facebook page, and getting introduced to some pretty cool bloggers along the way. None of which I had done before. Productivity win!
Remembering to look in, not out. About 10 days into the challenge and only two posts down, it briefly crossed my mind that people would notice I hadn’t published 10 posts. And just as quickly as the thought came, I pushed it away … mostly because no one is watching my blog that closely, but also because it didn’t matter what other people thought. Often times we take our cues on how we should feel or react from external influences. “She’s disappointed, so I should feel like I’ve fallen short." “He’s not fulfilled, so I should feel like I haven’t given enough.” But what everyone else thinks is not what’s most important. If you’re okay with the end result, then guess what? The end result is okay.
When things don’t go as planned, there’s no need to recoil at the thought of a fail. Instead, look for the lessons that you wouldn’t have gotten otherwise. Hope it helps, dear ones.